I had a neighbor, when I first moved in I saw her, she had beautiful blonde hair and the body of a stripper. She would always be out in her front yard mowing the grass. The yard was always perfect. Her son would be riding his bicycle around the driveway while she worked.
She had a fire engine red Dodge Ram pickup truck that she drove every day. She had a two car garage and parked it dead in the center because it was, apparently, just her and her son living there.
One day I noticed she had chopped her hair all off. It was super short and I hated it. But she still mowed her yard in a tiny tank top and shorts with that body of hers.
One day we noticed the yard wasn't taken care of. Later we saw a neighbor boy mowing it. Where was the lady? Her truck was still in the garage, but she was nowhere to be seen.
The next time I saw her she was pulling her fire engine red pickup into her garage. It had a pink breast cancer ribbon on the back tailgate.
After that I saw her being driven home by someone else. She was riding in the passenger seat and didn't look good. She went inside and didn't come out for days.
That Halloween she and a man and her son came to our door all dressed in costumes. She held out her sack and gave a big smile and said, "trick or treat!" I thought it odd that a woman apparently in her 30s was trick-or-treating, but when I realized who she was I gave her all she wanted. I had never actually met her face-to-face before. She had a pretty smile.
For at least 2 years I kept an eye out for her, just to see how things were going and if she seemed to be getting better.
The last time I saw her she was riding away in her friend's car. She was crying huge tears and looked to be in a lot of pain.
Today there is a car in her driveway, but it isn't hers. There is a sign on her door. She's not there.
I had a neighbor. And now she's gone.
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26 comments:
You make me cry with such a story.
How sad :( Very very sad....
That's sad, Steve. I think you're going to hit home with a lot of people with this story. I know you did with me.
I had to take care of my mother after her mastectomy three years ago. I was the one that had to tell her that "Yes, Mom, they had to take your breast." and watch her burst into tears after her surgery. It was one of THE hardest things I have ever done in my life.
That is some very scary shit indeed.
Thanks for sharing.
That's why I need to remember to enjoy every minute of TODAY. It's also a good reminder of why I need to make things happen instead of waiting for all that I want to drop in my lap.
TheMotels, that's pretty much how I felt while I wrote it.
MrsJ, I agree. I guess we kept thinking she was young so she'd beat it. Apparently she didn't.
StacyPQ, it makes me more scared for My Wife's cousin who had surgery last year for cervical cancer. She seems to be OK, but that is much deadlier than breast cancer. She's only 27. And Brighton, who just got through with her surgery and had it, too.
JY, I'm with you. I try to figure out how to make it happen, but I'm apparently not good at it.
That is sad. Maybe the new neighbors will become friends with you.My neighbor had uterine cancer and we all know each other in our neighborhood. We would check on her and take food over if needed. She is doing ok now and I love my neighbors.Yeh, sometime they are a pain in the ass but the fact that we know each other and care for each is the special part of the ''hood''
That fucking sucks.
Really.
I don't expect this kind of emotional stuff here and I appreciate this entry.
Wow. How very sad :(
Shit. I hope I don't become that neighbor.
Poody, it isn't new neighbors. They are apparently closing up her house or cleaning it out. I think she died. It wasn't a 'for sale' sign on the door. It's some kind of notice.
KeptWoman, I wouldn't be so emotional if we hadn't been seeing this happening over the past few years and hoping that she would get better.
Leesa, it is sad. I wonder where her son is now? She was SO healthy when I first saw her.
OneGirlWho, I hope you don't either. I had another neighbor, she was maybe 24 or 25. Her husband died, but she didn't say what happened. I didn't know how to react when she told me. I just said, "I'm so sorry" and she smiled a sad smile and said, "that's OK." I don't know how to react to people so young dying. It isn't supposed to happen.
You're right, it isn't supposed to happen.
Stories like this really put my piddly day-to-day problems in perspective.
Jesus. You and I with the sad stuff today. Let's promise eachother to write something more uplifting tomorrow.
Lovely job on it, though.
hmm :-(
Hey, not what I expect from you normally, but a great post Steve. Sucks doesn't it. My grandmother died from breast cancer at 27. My mom was 3 and doesn't even remember her. Her dad died when she was 18, but she wasn't even living with him. He'd remarried and his new wife didn't like her so she'd been shipped around from family to family. An aunt finally adopted her.
It's funny how life works sometimes. Sad things happen but some good can come out of them. My mom was so wonderful to us because she never had a mom. She wanted to be to us what she never had. Perhaps this post will touch someone to call their mom or take them out to dinner. Or to do an exam and they'll find something they didn't know was there.
You just never know.
:(
ResidentWee, it puts quite a lot of things into perspective. And it's scary, too. I wonder if she was able to arrange for her son to be taken care of?
Trix, thanks. Yes, tomorrow we'll have to try to be happier. In all fairness, today IS Monday.
NMissy, you said it.
LizzieD, holy cow, 27?! That must have been so rough for your mom. So all 3 of you have had your tough times to deal with. Good God! I know she was sick and I know the big pink ribbon appeared after she got sick, but whether she had breast cancer specifically or not I don't know. There are no ribbons for cervical cancer or the other forms of cancer so it may just be that it was all she could find to express her feelings. I just don't know. I don't believe she ever had a mastectomy so it makes me wonder exactly what happened.
Kami, my sentiments exactly.
That's very touching Steve.
I had a neighbor that dropped dead in her house one morning. Brain aneurysm. She had 4 kids, it was heartbreaking.
The sadest part of all is the child she left behind. As you may remember my ex-wife died from breast cancer a year ago last August.
I saw first hand what it does to the children. No child should ever have to loose their mother. The hardest part for me was watching and not being able to take the hurt away.
Hi Steve,
Came to your site for some perverted thoughts,but found it to have none, but couldn't help myself,posting you a appreciative comment, for that even made a new blog.The end was very pathetic but that is what truth is.
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Death can come so fast while we're not paying much attention...
What Biscuit said.
I miss Ian.
fVery sad.
cancer sucks.
Michelle, that's terrible. And it scares me to think I could be in the process of trying to make enough money to provide for my family only to die unexpectedly and leave them without enough because I wasn't ready.
TIS, I had forgotten about that. That must have been awful. Sometimes the worst pain is seeing people you love in pain and not being able to help them with it. Losing a parent when you're young can have a life-long impact, to be sure. I've seen it so many times before with people I grew up with.
Sourish, I'll have to come see what you've got going on.
SamAli, I know, honey, and I kept thinking he'd get better. When it was obvious he wouldn't I just didn't know what to do.
SteveT, I keep wanting to go knock on the door and ask the people in her house if they knew her and knew the details of what all happened. But I don't know them.
Kristen, definitely!
Why you gotta go and make us all cry now?
That is a sad sad thing.
A very sad, touching story. I'm sure she would be honored with what you've written for her.
Cancer fucking sucks... I've lost so many that I love to that damn disease. Thank you for the heartfelt post. It truly hit at home for me.
LuckyAustinLum, it is very sad. Sorry for the tears.
SullenG, I hope so. And yes, cancer does suck. I wish we could cure it.
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